The Wrong Relationship Advice

 When relationships are falling apart and you get advise like " You guys should go out more, You can go to the movies or something. Don't worry I'll help babysit the kids".  And then then your first thought is Yaay! That 's a good idea. It would make us feel like we are dating again.

 personally I don't believe in that. If you are not enjoying each other's company in the house, Why do you want to go to the movies together or go for a meal? It is better to have a tensed night in than to have a tensed night out. 

 Why not re establish connections first. try and thank your spouse at least 3 times a day (We all love to be valued) for the little things he/she does. Even for things as little as "thanks for throwing the garbage out" "thanks for putting this or that right". Let him know you appreciate him and the few little things that he does. 

the reason for doing this is because it does not let you only focus on the things that you are grateful about but by doing this, he will make him look for other ways to please you more. Give it a try. 

Another key to a good relationship is communication.  when a women is advised to talk more in other for the man to understand. Suddenly, we get home and sit him down for hours trying to tell him everything at once and think that would fix everything. Well in my opinion, that doesn't really work as men gets bored easily. ladies sometimes tend to be disrespectful . Rather than trying to force a conversation with him, why not focus on what is true without trying to criticize him.  Using words like "I miss you" rather than " we don't spend time together again" If you think he has just said something to hurt your feelings just try saying "Ouch" rather than " you are very insensitive"

I will be bringing in more advise and true life stories soon. 

Need to start typing my coursework now. 

President Jonathan Declares 3 Days Mourning for Mandela

Nigeria’s President Goodluck  Jonathan has declared three days of national mourning for former South African President, Dr. Nelson Mandela who passed away yesterday.

Flags are to be flown at half-staff across Nigeria during the period.

President Jonathan has urged all Nigerians to unite in solidarity with the people of South Africa as they mourn the great liberator, freedom fighter and hero of the black race.

The President also called for special prayers in mosques and churches in Nigeria during the period of mourning which begins today, for the peaceful repose of Dr. Mandela’s soul.

A special inter-denominational memorial service for Dr. Mandela will be held at the State House Chapel on Sunday.

Are we not mourning in Nigeria already? No electricity, good water supply, good road, not even a federal or state university in in session. And we say we are the giant of Africa

The Prequsite of Marriage

Marriage, I must tell you from experience, is one venture that’s worth preparing for- and very well at that.

Your preparation is a function of who you really are, that is: personality/temperament, religion, location, family background, status/class, etc.

For the purpose of precision, I will like to mention at this point that there is a huge difference between the marriage ceremony and the marriage union.  Unfortunately, we find people and even ourselves preparing more for the ceremony than the act of marriage.

Has it occurred to you the ceremony lasts for a day or two depending on which part of the world you are, while the union is expected to be a-life- long- journey.

Does it make sense that you borrow money from different sources just to have a good ceremony but go hungry afterward? Remember, anyone can put a ceremony together but not all can maintain a home.

Welcome to the world of Prince and Patricia and read what she (Patricia) has to say about her experience:

Mandela returns home

Nelson Mandela has finally gone home

Family members have gathered two days after Mr Mandela's eldest daughter said he was putting up a courageous fight from what she called his "deathbed".

He spent nearly three months in hospital with a lung infection.

Mr Mandela, 95, led South Africa's transition from white-minority rule in the 1990s, after 27 years in prison.

Among those attending was family elder Bantu Holomisa,

A number of government vehicles were there during the evening as well, our correspondent says.

The South African presidency has repeatedly described Mr Mandela's condition as critical but stable.

He has been receiving intensive home-based care since he was released from hospital in September.

He was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize in 1993 and was elected South Africa's first black president in 1994. He stepped down after five years in office.

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Pope Francis was once a bouncer in a night club.

Pope Francis, the spiritual head of the Catholic Church Worldwide used to guard the gate of a bar in Argentina.

Part of the menial jobs he engaged in to make ends meet included sweeping floors and running tests at a laboratory as a teenager.

The Catholic News Service reported that the 76-year-old pontiff made the disclosures concerning his previous jobs when he paid a visit to the church of San Cirillo Alessandrino.

The church is located in a working-class neighbourhood on the outskirts of Rome.

Known as Jorge Mario Bergoglio before he was elected pope, the pontiff is reputed to have abstained from living in luxury since March this year when he became the pope.

This revelation further shows that Pope Francis is used to life as an average individual who eschews materialism.

Fox News further described the anecdote as yet another example of Pope Francis’ growing reputation as a “pope of the people,” adding that since ascending to the papacy in March, he has eschewed such trappings as the Popemobile.

He has also washed the feet of prisoners and has shown a penchant for showing up unannounced wherever the faithful gather.

Last month, photos of Francis cradling and kissing the head of a man covered with tumours went viral, providing a powerful image of a pope dedicated to helping the poor.

The pope’s popularity has renewed the interest of people in the church as a recent survey by sociologist Massimo Introvigne of the Catholic clergy in Italy showed an increase in the number attending Mass and confession since Francis’ election.

In Italy alone, more than 100,000 people have returned to the church.

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Another baby factory busted.

Nigerian police said on Wednesday that they raided a home, in the south eastern Nigerian city of Owerri and freed 16 pregnant girls and young women allegedly being forced to have babies to be sold.

“We carried out a raid on a residence in Owerri following an intelligence report and rescued 16 expectant mothers,” Imo State police spokeswoman Joy Elomoko said.

“The girls were between 14 and 19 years old and in different stages of pregnancy.”

The male owner of the home, who was arrested, had registered it as a non-governmental organisation promoting women’s and children’s issues, Elomoko added.

An unlicensed automatic pump action shotgun was also recovered during the raid.

Elomoko said the rescued women and girls told officers that they were each offered 100,000 naira (632 dollars, 466 euros) to sell their babies after delivery.

An investigation was also underway over a case of a missing baby from the illegal home.

“We found out that the suspect could not explain the whereabouts of a baby that was recently delivered in the home,” the spokeswoman said.

“We are suspecting that the baby might have been sold for (black magic) rituals,” she said, adding that the suspect would be taken to court after police investigation.

Nigerian security agents have uncovered a series of alleged baby factories in recent years, notably in the southeastern part of the country.

Last month, six pregnant teenage girls were freed in a raid on an illegal clinic in the oil city of Port Harcourt.

Human trafficking is widespread in west Africa, where children are bought from their families to work in plantations, mines and factories or as domestic help.

Others are sold into prostitution, and less commonly they are tortured or sacrificed in black magic rituals

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But who is impregnanting these girls? 

A Man has been jailed for stealing shoes

 A lower court in the Nigerian capital of Abuja has sentenced a 28 year old man to four months in prison, with hard labour, for stealing shoes in a mosque.

The Abuja Grade 2 Area Court in Kado on Wednesday found Isah Abdullahi, from Utako Village, guilty over the theft of seven pairs of shoes.

Mr Ahmed Ado, the presiding judge, sentenced the convict after he pleaded guilty to the one-count charge. Abdullahi was not given an option of fine.

Ado said that Abdullahi was a heartless man, having stolen from a mosque.

He said that if anyone could go to a church or mosque to steal, it meant that the person was heartless and could do worst things anywhere.

Earlier, the prosecutor, Sgt. Simeon Ibrahim, told the court that Abdulrazak Abdullahi, the Chief Imam of Utako Village Mosque, Abuja, lodged a report against the accused at the Utako Police Station.

Ibrahim said the complainant reported that the convict had, while the Isha’i prayer was going on inside the mosque, formed criminal intention and dishonestly stole seven different pairs of shoes.

He said the shoes belonged to the worshipers who had come to the mosque for prayers. The convict was caught red-handed.

The prosecutor said the offence contravened the provisions of Section 287 of the Penal Code.

Ibrahim said that the shoes had been recovered from the convict and that he confessed to stealing them.

But why will you steal from a place of worship? I hope the guy learns from this.