When relationships are falling apart and you get advise like " You guys should go out more, You can go to the movies or something. Don't worry I'll help babysit the kids". And then then your first thought is Yaay! That 's a good idea. It would make us feel like we are dating again.
personally I don't believe in that. If you are not enjoying each other's company in the house, Why do you want to go to the movies together or go for a meal? It is better to have a tensed night in than to have a tensed night out.
Why not re establish connections first. try and thank your spouse at least 3 times a day (We all love to be valued) for the little things he/she does. Even for things as little as "thanks for throwing the garbage out" "thanks for putting this or that right". Let him know you appreciate him and the few little things that he does.
the reason for doing this is because it does not let you only focus on the things that you are grateful about but by doing this, he will make him look for other ways to please you more. Give it a try.
Another key to a good relationship is communication. when a women is advised to talk more in other for the man to understand. Suddenly, we get home and sit him down for hours trying to tell him everything at once and think that would fix everything. Well in my opinion, that doesn't really work as men gets bored easily. ladies sometimes tend to be disrespectful . Rather than trying to force a conversation with him, why not focus on what is true without trying to criticize him. Using words like "I miss you" rather than " we don't spend time together again" If you think he has just said something to hurt your feelings just try saying "Ouch" rather than " you are very insensitive"
I will be bringing in more advise and true life stories soon.
Need to start typing my coursework now.
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